“…Everyone is so uptight. Nothing is wrong or right with my man. I like the way we have our fun…” – En Vogue.

Let’s keep this real, shall we? I’ve yet to meet or hear a woman say, he nurtures my soul. Instead I’ve heard, “He hits my spot just right. He loves me. He spends money on me.” Other than great sex and/or lots of cash, baby…what does he do for your spirit? Sure, his touch is on point and/or buys you anything you want but when you are alone with just your thoughts to occupy your space, what are you really thinking? Is he truly giving you something you can feel? I’ve been on both sides of the coin where his sex quenched my every desire from sun up to sun down; from the top of my head (yes, dude gave one hell of a scalp massage) to the tips of my toes (Yes dude sucked the living daylights out of not only my toes but my soles.) Then I’ve had the guys that gave me anything I wanted money, handbags, clothes, shoes, etc. And what did I give in return? My time, my body and at times, I even cooked a good dish or two. But, many of you are giving your mind, body AND cash – at the expense of your kids and a few bills. So were we giving these men something they can feel. Sure, but at the end of the day what did we feel? Baby, sex means nothing unless it is an extension of your love and not what he can do or does for you. And your love should mean more than just fulfilling his needs while neglecting your own. So in the words of Aretha Franklin or En Vogue, instead of “giving him something he can feel so that he knows your love is real“, give yourself something that you can feel that lasts much longer than his visit and…excuse my French…a nut or two.

It’s Sexual Healing Wednesday

What would you do to be satisfied?

I hope whatever gives you pleasure. Hey, I’m just saying! LOL!

Would you lose yourself in order to be what I want you to be?

Should I continue to entertain every jealous outburst to appease your insecurities?

Will you keep sending nasty texts and emails just to get my attention?

Should I continue to hold on to you when you’re holding someone else at night?

Will you drown me with your list of constant “needs”?

Would you continue to stay when you know you can’t stand the pain?

If so, let’s just kiss and say goodbye.

It’s a Hot Mess Monday!

Let’s start off the week with a laugh courtesy of the exploits of Pretty Hot Chicks!

Hottie 1: Girl, guess what?!

Hottie 2: What’s up Beauty?!

H1: Got caught with my mouth full!

H2: LOL! WTF?!

H1: Girl, I was in the men’s bathroom, sitting on the toilet giving my man a little oral pleasure and neither one of us knew that the door wasn’t locked & this dude walked in on us. Talk about a “Damn” moment…

H2: LOL! Girl, you a mess!

H1: Yeah, I know. And there is no shame in my sex game!

Do you believe in your pretty?

You are who you think you are, Honey! Live it! breathe it! Perception is reality. Pretty is in the eye of the beholder and you are the most important observer. Remember, pretty is a state of mind and if you believe it, you’ll achieve it.

Hey, pretty is as pretty does!

Step Up Your Game With Your Walk!

Every Pretty Hot Chick knows that her strut increases her sex appeal. Simply put, a confident stride sends a message that you’re in touch with your body and in control of your life! (Think of Denzel Washington’s confident stride. I’m just saying!) So heat up your entrance with a sexy walk by doing this:

Head up, shoulders back, butt out and lead with your boobs!

“Shhh! Let your actions be guided by the aspirations of your heart.”

Rumor has it that Fantasia damn near killed herself over a dude?! WTH?! Word on the street is, she overdosed on aspirin and a sleeping aid. Allegedly, she is distraught over being blamed in a court filing for breaking up the marriage of her rumored lover Antwaun Cook and his wife Paula. Sources close to the singer said she believed him when he said he was “unhappy in his marriage & separated from his wife.” Now how many guys do you know will tell you the absolute truth about their “situation”? Fantasia girl, no dude or news is worth the misery baby. I’m just saying.

The crazy things that women do to men and in relationships. Join me and author Michelle Janine Robinson of the hot, new book “Zane presents Color Me Grey” LIVE tonight 10PM – 11PM EST on my blogtalkradio show, CLICK HERE: Confessions of a Hot Chick After Dark! as we explore, dissect and poke fun at the stupid things we do to get, keep & yes turn a man away. Plus, astro-numerologist Lloyd Strayhorn will let you know just how crazy you and/or your mate are! Call in to 917-889-2882 to be apart of this lively discussion! Don’t forget to let us know your or the person you wish to know about birthdate (month & day).

Hot Show After Dark The fine art of turning the situation around. Why can’t certain men play their position?

Is it me or are more and more guys acting like…excuse my French…bitches?! Now don’t get me wrong or misunderstand what I am saying. I love men! Love, love, love men. And this is not a male bashing session. I am merely making an inquiry as to why some dudes act or react a particular way. Of course I know that emotions play a great deal in how we handle situations but Jeez! You’d think that some guys would know better.

For example, a woman dates (and I use the term loosely because basically all they did was have sex) a man for a month or two then dude demands he should have the keys to her place and expects her to give them to him. WTF?! Honey, just because I have an orgasm doesn’t mean you should move in. I’m just saying! But oh, it gets better! This same dude catches a major attitude when he sees her greet a couple of male friends at an event. But get this! He doesn’t express his discomfort, his cousin does!

Hey, who I am f*cking him or you?! Again, I’m just saying. And another dude throws a hissy fit because a woman he  likes doesn’t call him 5 times a day or respond back quick enough to his texts. Honey, come on now, it’s just not that serious. Besides, why feed into the nonsense?!

Love a good form, but you have to have substance too! LOL!

Live Pretty!

Best,

Alicia Marie Rivers