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7 of the worst things men say to try and impress us and our thoughts behind it.
1. "I'm not like any other guy." Then why profess it? Let me see it.
2. "I can go all night." Really? Or is it just until you explode then fall asleep?
3. "I'm not a nice guy." Great, because I'm not a good girl.
4. "Yeah baby, I know Russell Simmons, Drake...."And this should mean what to me?
5. "I'll be the best lover you ever had." You sure about that?
6. "My bank account is just as big as my d@*k." And you say that to say???
7. "Baby I take care of all my kids." Sweetheart, would you like a prize for doing something you're suppose to do?"
Mmmmmm...rain does something to me. So wet in New York City that my fingers have a mind of their own. LOL! With that said, ever have thoughts of someone you simply just wanted to f*@k? Here is a memory I'll never forget...
It was a hot summer day and a friend of mine and I decided to pop into one of my favorite bar/restaurants. Thank goodness it wasn't too crowded yet so we were able to get to the bar easily. Unfortunately, most of the seats were taken except two beside this incredibly attractive man. Now far be it from me to assume he was holding both chairs, so I decided to lean in and ask him, "Sweetheart are these seats taken?". Honey when dude looked up and our eyes met, I was struck by his intense gaze with these dark eyes surrounded by the longest black lashes I'd ever seen on a man. Wow! Then he smiled and revealed the prettiest teeth underneath luscious lips topped off by the smoothest goatee. Damn! He replied, "No, not at all" and gestured for me to sit. Of course his yummy look was not lost on my friend who proceeded to toy with him asking him to take part in a dating auction that I was putting together. He engaged her, then looked directly at me and asked, "Will you bid on me?". I chuckled, met his gaze and replied, "I may. Depends on the other flavors." He smiled and said, "I doubt if you encounter a flavor as tasty as me." Damn! Ding! Ding! Ding! Dude has my attention. I like a man with a quick comeback. LOL! So I replied, "Careful baby. My taste buds would have to agree with that first." He then gave me a devilish smile as his eyes slowly drifted from my lips to my eyes and said, "You like peaches and almonds right?!". How did he? Wait, he recognized what I was drinking. Damn him! "Obviously." We then exchanged cell numbers and my friend and I left. Later, he texted me to make sure I had gotten home ok. Lord, I couldn't wait to see him again. Who am I fooling?! I couldn't wait to taste his lips. LOL! After about a week of texting, we finally had our first date. First, we had dinner and drinks at the very place we met. Then, because it was such a nice evening, we took a stroll. The sexual tension was so thick that I was damn near high from its intensity. Once we got to my door, my body was eager for his touch. As if reading my thoughts, he grabbed my hand, kissed each finger then the palm of my hand without taking his eyes off mine. I was smitten. Then he caressed my cheek as he and slowly brought me close to him and kissed me. His lips and tongue played such an erotic melody with my mouth that I melted with each nibble, lick and suck. Damn! Then it happened...I exhaled as my pelvic region felt his bulge that extended past his muscular mid-thigh. Honey, a single tear rolled down my eye as I silently exclaimed, "Good googly moo!" Now I bet you're wondering what happened next? Well...let's just say I put him and his assets to good use and my taste buds were quite pleased. *WINK*
Just Saying!
Just got back from Las Vegas, and let me tell you...I had a ball! Saw a professional boxing match live for the first time, (the Mayweather vs Guerrero Welterweight World Championship fight), pool hopped from one hotel to the next, enjoyed some tasty food and cocktails and stayed at one of the best resort hotels in Vegas...the Mandarin Oriental. Honey, it was a yummy mini vacay! LOL! But there was one question that I could not get out of my head? Why do some women wear clothing that is obviously two sizes too small? Now, this is not an attempt to be funny or to put women down. I'm just wondering why some chicks think a skin tight dress + a big belly = flattering look or a bikini + big belly with more than enough love handles = sexy? Again not trying to insult anyone. I'm just curious. Hell, I understand these women want to look their best, but...do they? Sure, there are different body types and we all have our flaws, but isn't it interesting what we choose to wear to showcase our desirability? I'm just saying!
Why is fear, terror and/or violence used to promote one's goals?
I am so saddened about the Boston Marathon bombings that took the lives of 3, limbs of many and scared as well as angered the hell out of us. Why? It's interesting to me how folks choose to hurt people to further whatever agenda. Funny thing is, we've all done the same...to a lesser degree. Think about it. Every day a business crushes a smaller one to achieve its objective and people emotionally and/or physically damage one another in the name of ego, love, insecurity, money, God or religion. Let's take it a step further. Your mate hurts your feelings, so you decide to inflict some disappointment or pain. A co-worker annoys you, so you do or say something with the sole intent to embarrass him/her. A religious person who preaches peace and spiritual growth is quick to exhibit violent behavior to defend their convictions. Or my personal favorite, when someone doesn't share your ideals you aim to shame, berate or battle you. Get the picture! Although attempting to kill people is one extreme, many if not all of us has caused some harm to push or protect our wants and beliefs. Yes, the bombings were awful and murdering people is wrong. But if we took the senseless killings out of the equation, would we be much different from those who committed such crimes? Hmmmmm...
3 things we need to maintain especially when we like someone:
1. Logic. Oftentimes, our emotions can override reason when we're really feeling someone. I know it can be difficult, but when its especially hard and you feel like lashing out, a confrontation or saying something slick, take a deep breathe and first ask yourself the following, 1."Why do I feel this way?", 2."Can and will I accept the outcome from my actions if it's different from my true intentions or desired results?"
2. Individual identity. Many times people lose themselves in a relationship then become resentful because they miss the person they once were. Honey, you don't have to forfeit those unique characteristics that make you you; nor stop hanging out with friends or having your own interests. Part of what makes a romantic union lasting is when two people respect each other for who they are and complement one another.
3. Self-love. Our happiness is not based on what someone's opinion of us is or should be. It is what we think of ourselves and how we nurture as well as protect our well-being that matters first and foremost.
Why is it that when we disagree with a person's thoughts
we start attacking them personally?
How many times have you gotten into a spirited debate or argument with someone and that person started assuming things about your character
that had absolutely nothing to do with the topic at hand? And you're like, "WTH?! What does that have to do with what we're talking about?" Oftentimes we get too caught up in our emotions that we're quick to react
instead of taking the time to truly think or stay focused on the subject matter.
Could it be personal issues that lead us to react so negatively?
Or perhaps it's an insane insecurity and need to feel worthy that compels
us to want to try to tear another person down or rattle them to feel
good about ourselves? Either way, every one has an opinion. Interesting thing is, it's how
one conveys their thoughts that says alot about who they are. I'm just saying.
Really?!!!
Man tells woman that he's been dating for a month that he wants to be in a commited relationship with her. She, somewhat skeptical says, "Are you sure? We can do this one of 2 ways: 1. We can try at a monogamous union. Or we can continue to enjoy each other when its convenient for us, no strings attached. Either way, you're gonna get the p*$$y." He responded, "Baby, I want #1. Just me and you, nobody else." Honey, a month later dude's seeing another woman! Really?!!!
After a year or so of messing around with another woman's man, a female decides to contact woman and tell her she's seeing her boo. Girlfriend confronts boyfriend and he leaves her and moves in with the side piece. A few months past, and chick finds out he's cheating on her. She's pissed! Really?!
Couple have sex. He explodes and turns over to go to sleep. She grabs her vibrator and her body starts to respond immediately. He turns over and says, "Really?!" She ignores him as she climaxes. Then turns toward him and says, "Yes Really!!!"
Honey, it's ok to...
...yearn for summer.
...boldly declare that you are marrying your vibrator in celebration of
self-love & sexual independence! Cheers!
...get your first tattoo at age 30, 40 or even 50!
...have a naughty fantasy about your sexy FaceBook or InStagram friend.
...wear your sexiest pair of undies under your most flattering dress for no other reason than...just because.
...suspect that your mate is cheating on you and contemplate returning the favor BEFORE you decide to leave him.
...with a confident stare & sly smile, tell that certain someone, "I know that you want me. I see it in your eyes. You might as well be honest, because the body never lies."
Things that make us shake our heads and go, "Really?!"...
...a guy you meet at a bar asked if he could buy you a drink, you say, "Sure," then he excuses himself. A few minutes later, dude returns with one glass in his hand and says, "Hey, you got $2? I'm a little short and your drink was $12."
...Your mother asks you a question you know she knows the answer to, then when you give her your response she says, "Nah! That ain't it!" And you're thinking, "Then why the f*@k did you ask me?!".
...You see a handsome dude from across the room. You two make eye contact and he makes his way over to you. You are silently screaming, "Damn! This man is fine! Tall, pretty eyes, great body" Then dude opens his mouth and reveals the yellowest teeth with the worst tarter build-up!
...You're in Macy's waiting in a long line to puchase your merchandise. The person in front of you is finally at the register and she has a ton of items. The cashier rings everything up and says, "That'll be $330.69. Cash or charge?" The customer then says, "Damn! I left my wallet in the car!".
...a dude whom you just exchanged cell numbers with a day ago, texts you a photo of him in a pink and black zebra-print bikini brief with the caption, "Sexy huh?!
Temptation: Confessions of a Pretty Hot Chick!
Saw the Tyler Perry movie, "Temptation: Confessions of a Marriage Counselor," and although it was entertaining I was somewhat disappointed about the film's message. The movie opens with a couple seeing a marriage counselor and the wife reluctantly admitting that she's seeing another man. Then the counselor tells her story about her sister's infidelity: Together since they were kids, twenty-something married couple, Judith and Brice leave the country to the city to pursue their dreams. But feeling a little unfulfilled and taken for granted after 6 years of marriage, Judith gets tempted by a sexy, rich playboy who knows all the right buttons to push. Honey, I could relate. Temptation ruled the hell out of me in one particular relationship. You see, like Judith, I had this seemingly nice guy that loved me but I couldn't pretend that I wasn't lonely. My boyfriend could never reach nor scratch the itch I had. Unfortunately, another man gave me everything I missed at home...he understood my needs, he knew how to hold me...kiss me...and do all the things I wanted to feel. Hey, I'm not gonna lie, I like a man who equals my thirst to live instead of merely existing, and goes after what he wants with confidence using mental foreplay as a weapon and his body as a tool. I remember it like it was yesterday. I was out on the town, in search of support, not looking for lust or love. I was at a lounge with friends and this sexy-ass man walked up with a friend of mine. Ignoring everyone else my friend introduced him to, he kept his eyes locked on mine, giving me a wicked smile. Honey, my vagina woke up out of slumber, got warm and cooed just as he inquired, "And who is this?!" Although I tried to ignore the attraction, I was powerless. He was exciting, funny, smart, self-assured, successful and made it known that he could pleasure me mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually...anytime, anyplace. For example, after weeks of stimulating conversation with some wicked wordplay, he finally convinced me to have a drink with him. He picked me up from a friend's apartment and took me to a sultry rooftop lounge. It was crowded, so we had to stand close to hear each other. Lord, it didn't help matters that he smelled good enough to lick and used every opportunity to get so close that I could bite his ear or neck. For example, he'd look at me, bend down and in a deep voice ask, "I'm sorry, what did you say?" That motherf@*ker knew exactly what he was doing! LOL! But I was already losing self-control. After sensing the quickened pace in my breathing, he asked with a sly smile, "You want me don't you?!" Bastard! LOL! And yes I did! Needless to say, that night it was the hottest sexual experience I ever had. It was raw, animalistic, passionate, sensual, crazy. Hell, the first round didn't even make it to my bed. It started in my elevator then the first climax happened in my foyer, just past my front door. Damn! Hell, another encounter with dude happened on a pier one summer night. The desire was too strong to wait for the privacy of my home, let alone my bed. That NEVER happened in my relationship! My then-boyfriend always seemed to wait for me to initiate sex. WTH?! Unfortunately, the fling ended badly. My lover was pressuring me to be his woman and my "nice" boyfriend found out and confronted us both. Unlike in Perry's film, there was no drug or physical abuse, no STD to punish me for my promiscuity, no crushed or victimized image due to the scar of infidelity, nor any story that jolted or scared me to settle and stay with my boyfriend. What did happen was a relationship crumbled, feelings got hurt and a lesson learned. One, the grass appears greener due to what we project as our inadequacies or what we covet. Oftentimes we want what we don't have or what we think is better. Simply put, we're doing a disservice to our well-being if we're not first truthful with ourselves and then our mate about who you are, what you want and need - which changes every so often. And if he/she can't provide it for us, be strong enough and secure in our self-worth to free one another to get the happiness we so desire.
Ever been torn between your desire for a relationship and the temptations of single life?
Honey, I understand. I remember once dating a friend that I was not quite ready to commit to but get this, I really didn't want him to date anyone. Ain't that some shit?! LOL! Then I met someone that seduced the hell out of my mind. Ladies, you know what I'm talking about. Dude was not only handsome and sexy, but his conversation was like foreplay on steroids. Good, googly moo! LOL! Did I mention the way he'd just look at me, got me hot and bothered before he even touched me. And to make matters worse, his kisses had me pulsating heat, waiting to welcome his urgent head of desire. Got damn! Lawd! Lawd! Funny thing was, I was also quite attracted to my friend. So what was a Pretty Hot Chick to do? Honey, I enjoyed both of them! LOL! It wasn't like either was asking for exclusivity! I'm just saying! But when my craving for a relationship drowned out my thirst for choices, I selected one of them...now wouldn't you like to know which one?! *WINK*
5 Tips on How to Reduce Your Stress About Money!
Honey, when those dollar woes start creeping in your thoughts, there's no where to run, no where to hide! But I got a few ways to face it head on and be alright!
1. Forgive yourself. Whatever you did or didn't do to get you in the situation you're in right now will not help by dwelling on it. Instead, sit back, take a deep breathe and think of something that makes you feel good. This will calm your anger, fear & disappointment.
2. Access the financial problem calmly & write down realistic solutions. Seek advice from those that you trust and admire.
3. Build a financial cushion, safety net or reserve (Honey, I keep an emergency fund that I call my "Titty Kitty". LOL!) by setting aside money weekly for unexpected expenses.
4. Just say "No" to family, friends, co-workers who's always trying to hit you up for money. Of course, you want to be helpful to your family & friends, but damn...every month?! LOL! And while their caring for any grown-ass kids, a man, or buying yet another handbag, dress, shoes, etc., hell no! LOL!
5. Spend only on what's important to you and will NOT break your bank! If your expenses out weigh your resources, then baby, "Find a pole and generate some dollars to cover your ass, because its obvious you're exposing yourself for something or someone you can't afford." Place a greater value on using your financial resources wisely.
3 sexy things to do now!
Spoke to a woman yesterday who never masturbated in her life! Jeez! I could not believe my ears! I thought, "How could this be?" But then everyone is not me. LOL! However, there are many of you who think just like me! WINK! So with that said & in honor of Freaky Friday, do something that you've never done before and strictly for your sexual enjoyment.
1. Masturbate alone and in front of your mate! Explore your body especially your jewel! Stroke, softly tap, massage - do whatever feels good and gets you so juiced up you're ready to call on a higher power. Hey, how can you call yourself sexy, sexual or hell even a Pretty Hot Chick if you can't turn your own self on?! I'm just saying!
2. Bake a cake. Well...not necessarily. LOL! Create the cake batter then invite your lover to taste the mix off your finger, wrist, neck and nipple. Next, return the favor and lick the batter off his neck, finger, chest & lips. Now what you do after that shouldn't have a damn thing to do with an oven!
3. Text or call your lover that you want him to meet you at a bar or restaurant pretending as though he does not know you. Let him be the first to arrive. Then you walk in looking hot, giving him a smile. Next, have the bartender send him a drink with a naughty note requesting him to meet you in the restroom. When he arrives, offer no words. Just whisper in his ear how much he turns you on. Kiss him and lightly run your fingers over his chest, groin and butt. Unzip his pants and give him a little head.
Are you ready for bikini season?
You're probably thinking, "I'm not ready for a bikini! I got a roll here, there...hell everywhere!" Honey, that's quite alright because we got a few ideas that will help you decrease and eliminate those extra inches and get you bikini-ready:
1. Banish the thought that's "it's gonna be hard to lose this weight." Because if you can lose a 200-300lb man who does not respect you, then a measely 5, 10, 15lbs or more that hugs you is no biggie. Plus, you can have fun losing it!
2. Work it out! I don't care if you walk, jog, dance, ride a bike or whatever. Just get your move on every day and do some form of exercise. Pounds can't stick if you're moving your booty baby! LOL!
3. Greatly reduce (I'd prefer eliminate, but every now and then I like a little Cold Stone ice cream! LOL) sugar, bread, dairy, red meat, candy, white rice, pasta, flour, salad dressing (except oil & vinegar) beer, alcohol (I know! I know! Likes my wine & a cocktail or 2, so I have it in moderation.) pastries (cakes, pies, donuts, etc), soda, & fruit drinks. Now replace with dark leafy greens, veggies & fruits (no canned stuff! All fresh or frozen), grilled chicken or fish & lots of water!
4. Eat smaller portions! No more going back for seconds. If you're not feeling full. Drink a large glass of water with a slice of lemon and/or cucumber & grab an apple.
5. This may sound a little disgusting, but you'll be alright! LOL! Be sure to clean yourself out daily. My favorite colon cleanser is Sculpt n' Cleanse (available at Vitamin Shop or call 800-414-4496)! Note: This is meant to be used periodically, such as for a few weeks to a month, then give your body a break for a few weeks to a month before you start taking again.
Now if all else fails, screw the bikini! There's some hot one-piece bathing suits and fab cover-ups. I'm just saying!
What's your wicked reality at the moment?
A little stressed out? Read on!
Oftentimes life slips us an obstacle or two that knocks the wind out of our being. Then, out of nowhere, a person you love tries to stomp out whatever light is left. When this happens, take a deep breathe, scream or shout, but remember this...
1. Any words, attitudes or actions used against me will not prosper and strangle my joy.
2. I am true to me first and honor my mind, body & soul. Self-preservation is the key to peace of mind.
3. Perception can be a dangerous weapon because it is a reality for most. Fortunately, what is someone else's belief is NOT often your truth.
5 Quick Tips to Stay Youthful-Looking & Maintain Your Hotness!
What is the secret to ageless beauty? Honey, it is no secret! It's all in what you do and consume! Here's how...
Fight aging from the inside out: Topical creams are only 50% of what you could be doing to slow the aging process. The other 50% starts inside with certain foods, i.e., spinach, avocado, cabbage, berries, cauliflower, garlic, broccoli, ginger, kale, nuts, turnip, soy, watercress, radish, watermelon, brussels sprouts, Omega-3 (flax seeds, walnuts, Wild salmon, Edamame) and a beauty vitamin containing Resveratrol, Alpha Lipoic Acid (ALA), Omega 3 fatty acids, CoQ10, Ginseng, Ginkgo Biloba, zinc, selenium, vitamin E, vitamin C, vitamin A, vitamins B2, B3, B6, grape seed extract, aloe, niacin, Lutein, green tea, and Lycopene to boost collagen levels from within.
Choose low-glycemic foods: Low-glycemic foods (such as whole grains, beans and vegetables) won’t cause rapid rises in blood sugar. This is important because high blood sugar causes your collagen and elastin to “clump” together. This clumping prevents the normal renewal cycle of your skin.
Get to sleep before 11 pm: Human skin cells naturally renew their fastest at 11 pm because of our built in rhythms that God designed. If you are in bed resting, it will enhance this natural renewal cycle!
Exfoliate often: Exfoliation not only removes dull, dead skin cells to reveal a glow, but also stimulates collagen production. Exfoliate two to three times weekly, but beware of scrubs with sharp fruit seeds that can create micropunctures in your skin.
Reduce stress: Chronic stress causes your skin to thin and hair to fall out. Prayer and mediation while walking are great ways to reduce stress while polishing your glow with exercise.
7 Reasons Why We Don't Listen!
1. We're on the defense.
2. Too busy thinking about a response/comeback.
3. Too upset to really hear what the person is saying.
4. Distracted.
5. Only care about our point of view.
6. Think we know better.
7. Don't want to hear it.
It's tough to truly hear what another person is saying when we're
caught up in our own emotions. Interesting thing is, it's far more beneficial
to set our feelings to the side and really listen. Honey, you learn so much. Just saying!
Logic vs Emotion
How often does emotion trump logic in your relationships?
Be honest honey. Lord knows I've had my share of irrational moments in past relationships. LOL! Funny how emotion can take precedence over rationale when you really like someone. Think about it - the number of times you caught an attitude simply because your beloved did not call or text you in the time frame you thought he/she should when logic dictates that perhaps due to work responsibilities that they could not get back to you right away. Or constantly complaining about someone else's flaws or mistakes without a thought of your own. But that's not even the cream of the crop. Remember the arguments where you lashed out and said something with the intent to hurt because you felt they hurt you. Or how about hanging up on your mate because they were telling you something you didn't want to hear as if they did not have a right to their thoughts?! Baby, it gets so much better. My personal favorite is constantly going through your mate's personal belongings and/or stalking them to prove your suspicions are true. Sounds crazy right? Not at all. What's crazy is NOT taking a deep breath, pause, and reacting off your emotion. I know it's hard to do. Takes considerable practice. But, when you can acknowledge your feelings, be honest with yourself on what is fueling your emotions, logic can be if not the perfect gentleman or lady, a great friend, hero and savior.
Solo Acts
The 8 Benefits of Masturbation. Hey, if you want something done right, sometimes you've got to do it yourself! LOL!
1. No tedious foreplay. Hey some dudes don't know what to do. For example: Dude says, "Don't that feel good?." Female says, "No! It DON'T feel good, so don't do that or I'm gonna hit you in the head with this vibrator I'm hiding under my pillow."
2. You don't have to deal with no crazy muthafu@ckers!
3. No cuddling or spooning.
4. No need to tell someone how amazing they were when they weren't.
5. The only one you have to worry about pleasing is yourself. (And I haven't failed myself yet. LMAO!)
6. Health benefits: Releases endorphins at the point of orgasm...if you have a headache, it will disappear.
7. Easy clean up.
8. And you can rest assured that this will happen again soon. (Sometimes 5 minutes later. Hey, I'm just saying.
What is the source of your insecurity?
Jealous and insecurity can ruin a relationship. Honey I know this first hand! And don't try to guess who is who, just focus on the message! LOL! Anywho, once upon a time, a girl fell in love with a man. I mean she fell deep where she forgot her self worth or perhaps she never really knew it. Anyhow, this chick fell head first for a man that most of us would - he was handsome, sexy beyond belief, great sense of humor, rich, intelligent, beautiful body (Hey, it is what it is! LOL!), generous, caring, blah, blah, blah. BUT, dude was a little bit of a flirt. Nothing harmful. He simply liked making people feel comfortable. Now, he never cheated on the girl. But, because people adored him, his girl couldn't handle it. She was so fearful that another woman would capture his attention that she would monitor his comings and goings, constantly check his phone, emails, FaceBook and Twitter pages...hell she'd even followed him to see if she could catch him with another woman! She simply didn't believe in her hotness! Honey, what all of us - man or woman - dream about is a person who's secure in themselves. It is such a turn on when your mate can see a person interested in you and instead of reacting childishly, he slides up to you, smiles, greets the person, pretends he doesn't know you and slips you his number as he whispers in your ear to join him for a drink when you've concluded your business. Damn! It's getting a little hot in here! LOL! Bottomline: If you do not believe and act like you are a Pretty Hot Chick or Pretty Hot Man, then how can someone else see and treat you that way? I'm just saying! So find the source of your insecurity and deal with it or continue to allow it to ruin your peace of mind.
It's time to...
...suck it up and move on. Trust me, you'll be alright!
...take responsibility for your words and actions and stop blaming everyone else for your faults, fuck ups & foolery!
...give in to the temptation or shut it down.
...finish what you started or drop it entirely.
...let him go or deal with the bullshit. Either way, you'll learn to live with it.
...stop complaining. It won't do a damn thing except waste your time and energy.
......stop talking about it and BE about it.
...release all doubt and negativity. Why allow anything that bruises or crushes your spirit rent valuable space in your mind?!
Can anyone tell me what love is?
Recently, I was told by an ex that I didn't know what love is. Funny thing is dude knows even less about the word, noun, verb, emotion and action than I do. LOL! He thinks it's a feeling fueled by a sexual craving followed with an action such as giving cash and gifts. Of course, there is nothing wrong with his thought, but love is more than that. Truth is, it's beauty and mystery continue to intrigue and haunt us - that it's power. Love isn't complicated baby. We complicate it. We try to define it based on childhood memories, societal interpretations, individual morals, past experiences, personal fears, validation, insecurities, future hopes and dreams then want or better yet expect our beloved to feel as we believe. But dig this, love is defined by the Merriam-Webster Dictionary a few ways: 1. strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties <maternal love for a child> (2): attraction based on sexual desire: affection and tenderness felt by lovers (3): affection based on admiration, common interests and/or unselfish loyal benevolent concern for the good of another. Hmmmm...now what does that mean for you? Most if not all of you will agree with Webster's description, but there are certain variables that can cause one to question what another calls "love" and this is where WE put a monkey wrench in the whole love thing - such as if you love a person then why would you intentionally hurt them with nasty words, crazy behavior or an angry hand? Could it be that as Tina Turner sings, "What's love got to do with it?" Hey, regardless of what anyone thinks, no one is an authority on love. Simply put, we're just trying to hold on to or find that euphoric feeling we associate or perceive as love. It will always be as you believe and I can no longer argue anyone's belief. But what I will continue to do is stand firm in my belief of what love isn't for ME...stress. LOL! PEACE!
5 Ways to Look Prettier, Chicer and More Attractive!
1. Believe in your beauty! Do not allow doubt, low self-esteem and someone else's negative opinion take up valuable space in your mind. Simply put, you are who you believe you are...which leads to what you do! So don't just think you are, KNOW you are.
2. Make it work for you! Take the trends like red lipstick (the color of sexy) in a shade that complements your complexion, eye & hair color then pair with a chic hat, long necklaces, great fitting black leggings/jeans and flirty top, oversize shoulder bag and super cute heels.
3. Smile. There is nothing more appealing than a woman who is genuinely happy with herself.
4. Posture! Posture! Posture! Body language says a lot baby! So, let folks know you feel good about and respect yourself by sitting and standing up straight. Hey, sex appeal is more than physical attractiveness - It is how you feel, think, speak, walk, sit, stand, gesture and move!
5. Be yourself! Get over jealousy and comparisons to others.
Oral Pleasure: 3 quick tips to stimulate his head, pun intended!
Use your voice. Men enjoy a little dirty talk, especially if your tone is low but clear, seductive & charming. But if you're not comfortable with it, try slipping sexy hints about what you'd like to do to him over the phone or text. Your sexually suggestive talk will have him thirsting for you.
Add some bubbles. Greet him in nothing but a mini robe, red or black stilettos and a kiss. Have a glass of Champagne (or any carbonated drink) in hand and offer him a sip. The bubbly can help give oral pleasure a bit of extra fizz! So take a mouthful of your chosen liquid, then carefully take him in your mouth without spilling it all. The bubbles fizzing against his jewels will drive him crazy!
Be fresh. Mints are good for adding a bit of extra tingle. Put a mint in the side of you mouth while your giving him oral stimulation for a whole new sensation!
3 Ways to Get What You Want in Life!
We all want happiness, love, more money and good health, but what is the strategy in achieving those things? Besides faith and hard work, Feng Shui is another component to use to attract what you want. Feng Shui, an ancient Chinese art, utilizes Chi, the energy in your environment, to balance and enhance things by specifically placing objects around you to support you in reaching your goals. Here are a few tips from Feng Shui expert, Marie Burgos (www.manobluedesign.com) that can help you clear the path to getting what you want:
1. Remove clutter: Clutter creates stagnant energy and prohibits energy flow. Since most of your energy is tied up in the clutter in your environment, it only weights you down. It keeps you stuck in the energy pf the past and contributes to obstacles and frustrations. Enable the energy to move freely through your environment by clearing out things that are no longer relevant to your life.
2. Pay attention to pictures and objects in your space. Pictures on your wall are speaking to you constantly. Do you have pictures that denote sadness, loneliness, violence, fatigue or do you have images that speak of dreams, abundance, vitality, peace and harmony? It is also valid for objects around you. It is important not to keep broken objects as well as they carry that energy. So having pictures and objects that speak positively to you will surround you with that energy.
3. Have only what you love around you. Everything in your environment holds an energy that either supports you or drains you. Take away things you do not absolutely love and the rest will support you. If you don’t like something, release it even if it was a gift. Surround yourself with things you love to bring more of that which you love into your life.
A Pretty Hot Chick's Way to Foreplay!
Hey, just because Valentine's Day is over, doesn't mean yummy foreplay ceases til next week, month or even year! Keep it hot as often as you can with 3 of my favorites to do...
1. So you know how to kiss...but not like this! Trace the tip of your finger or tongue around edges of your lover's mouth.They'll experience a tingly almost ticklish sensation. But don't lick around entire mouth. Just kiss as you normally would then trace upper or lower lip, kiss again, then trace lower or upper lip.This will trigger thoughts of what you can do to his private parts!
2. Touch me, tease me. There is a bountiful of sensual nerve endings awaiting your touch on the back of neck, inner thighs, that sexy dip where neck meets chest, sides of torso & lower back as well as nipples. So use your fingers, lips and tongue to slowly caress & nibble from chin down to that little indentation that connects neck with the collarbone; up and down back of neck then across shoulder; just underneath rib cage and down to the hip bone; then starting from mid-inner thigh to the top.The reaction will be a favorable one!
3. Give a long, slow, relaxing foot massage.Use a sensual-smelling massage oil and massage the sole of the foot in a slow, circular motion. Next, use your nose, tongue and fingers and explore the toes, the ball of the foot, the heels and the top of the foot. Caressing the ankles, massaging the arches, kissing the soles & sucking the toes can send your partner into total bliss!
Sometimes we just have one of them days where nothing seems
to go right and you just feel like screaming at the top of your lungs. Lord, do I
understand! But when you find yourself having that moment, do any or all of the
following. It certainly has helped me, especially when I've wanted to give up and crawl
under a rock. LOL! I'm just saying.
1. Let out your frustrations. Scream, yell, hell curse and fuss to yourself or whomever will
listen. Then take a deep breathe and say, "What I can change, I will. What I can't, 2 tears
in a bucket, f*@k it."
2. Find the humor in the situation. Then laugh your ass off. Hey, regardless of the situation (dude
cheating on you, an unexpected bill, etc) there is something you can chuckle at. Besides,
laughter can help ease the pain. Not to menion, blow off the steam.
3. Pleasure yourself. Okay, some of you may disagree with me and if so, you'll be alright. But a good
self-inflicted orgasm can relax the hell out of you. Hey, I'm just saying.
6 Fabulush Thoughts of a Pretty Hot Chick!
- How the world responds to you is by your thoughts, hand and command!
- Ask yourself a question: Do you respect yourself? If the answer is "yes", then what actions have you taken and are doing to confirm your self-respect? If no, how and when do you change it?
- In every situation you have a choice. Even a prisoner held in a little cell can choose what he/she thinks about and the way they manage to keep going.
- Don't let anyone make you feel inferior. They can only do it if you allow them.
- Get over any unhealthy competitiveness including any rivalries. Not good for your mind, body or soul. It'll feed whatever doubts and that evil LSE (low self esteem).
- Make a list of your past mistakes and errors of judgment. Then say a prayer, burn the paper - symbolically & finally forgiving yourself.
Are you afraid of aging?
Honey, I can relate. I do not see myself as a older chick, just a Pretty Hot Chick! LOL! Now at a certain age, (Yes, I'm at a particular number and I'm not quite ready to admit it. LOL! But I'll be alright) I find myself focusing more on my eyes, my hands, my neck, my body and my mind - all telltale signs of getting older. I also catch my thoughts drifting to, "Can I still wear this or that?" But of course, that rebel and Blanche Devereaux of "The Golden Girls" comes out of me and says, "Of course you can! You're a hottie and no person or damn number can tell you otherwise! Plus, how many 20+ or 30+ year olds can rival your sexy tush?!" LMAO! Hey, if I don't believe in my hotness who else will. And I refuse to wait for somebody to validate my desirability honey! Anywho, enough chatter about the inevitable. Because a Pretty Hot Chick doesn't worry, she chooses to live. Besides 40 is foxy, fine, fearless & fabulush! I'm just sayin!
4 things to help get you through the week!
1. Think Pretty. If you feel frustrated, discouraged or you just feel yourself getting
out of sorts, think of something that will give you pleasure. Hey, when your thought is
changed your feeling is changed. Remember, you have no weakness unless you think you have.
It is your thinking that makes you weak.
2. Flirt! Call a man "handsome", tell a woman how lovely her eyes are or smile at a child.
Honey, flirting lightens the spirit and puts people at ease. Not to mention, you'll be surprised
what a warm smile, genuine compliment, and pleasant personality can score -
like a discount, a helping hand, or a sexy stranger's phone number. I'm just saying! LOL!
3. DO something just for you! Whether it's finding a cheap yet chic treat, much needed solitude or
self-pleasure (Hey, I'm all about loving yourself - fingers, toys and all...LOL!), do something strictly
for YOUR entertainment & enjoyment!
4. Laugh! There's nothing like a damn good giggle, chuckle or deep belly laugh to
keep you stress-free, youthful and feeling good!
How often do you turn the other cheek and walk away from an argument?
Honey some moons ago, I would stand toe-to-toe and battle with men I was involved with about their thoughts - which is funny, considering I'd be the first to say to my friends, "You can't argue anyone's belief." LOL! But after one too many sleepless nights, a little too much wine, a bad headache and looking in the mirror and not liking the stress on the woman's face staring back at me, I said, "To hell with this! My spirit & beauty mean far too much to me than arguing with someone over a point a view." Simply put, people are going to think whatever they want to think. So before you enter into any argument, ask yourself, "What exactly is this battle about and is it worth my mind, time, body & soul?" Hey, at the end of the day, we're either going to agree or disagree. I'm just saying!
Independence is sexy! Woo-hoo!
As we sat watching Beyonce's electrifying performance at the Super Bowl, we were reminded of our power and strength. With every strut, thrust and vocal movement, Bey had us thinking of our own power moves. Funny thing is, we kind of lost them because we're caught up in a lifestyle that we did not design. Interesting thing is no matter how bad we wanted out, we did not make any effort to do so until recently. Honey, let me give you some real talk for a moment. Have you ever gotten so use to a situation that it became easier to deal with the stress than to step out of it to save your own sanity? Well honey, let me just say this...money isn't everything, especially if it isn't yours. You see, it may seem cool for someone who say they "love you" to help you financially, but if you become complacent and not helping yourself, guess what happens?! You become dependent and at the mercy of your provider's mood swings and whims. Your life is no longer your own. Lord, Billie Holiday was right, "God bless the child who has its own". So as fearful as it may be, let's step up and once again go after our goals with the zest we once possessed. So that one day we can triumphantly say, "we worry about nothing 'cause we got our own."
8 Things We Want From Men!
There are two sides to every story and I believe
that you should give just as good as you receive. So ladies here are some things that we want to
get from the men we hand our hearts, bodies and (to a certain degree) spirits too:
1. Moments for him to just listen and NOT try to fix MY problem.
2. To be surprised by a romantic dinner with pretty flowers, candles & great conversation.
Then, followed by a sensual massage, kisses, long foreplay & mind-blowing sex! Toys are optional. LOL!
3. To tell what he feels AND the truth (the two are not necessarily the same), no matter what!!!
4. To be cognizant of our feelings when we appear uncomfortable by the long hours
he spends at your job, his forever partying friends, his sexy client,
boss, co-worker, ex or female friend.
5. A surprise gift like fabulous shoes, jewels, handbag or a flirty dress!
6. Cook. Clean. Occassionally iron a shirt or two & unexpected oral sex.
7. To take the kids somewhere, anywhere! So that I can get a break!
8. A call, not a text.
10 Things Men Want From Us!
1. To love ourselves and be comfortable in our sensuality and sexuality!
2. To tell it to him straight, the reader's digest version of course!
3. Admiration for his bedroom, daddy, fixing, cooking & problem-solving skills.
4. A wink & smile or a naughty text message across the room during a party, family gathering, etc.
5. To initiate watching a porn film together AND be turned on by the activity!
6. Cook, clean, occasionally iron a shirt or two & unexpected oral sex!
7. To give him space so that he could
realize how much he truly loves and misses you.
8. To be cognizant of his feelings when he seems threatened by your job, your friends
or the attention another man is giving you.
9. To tell him he's you're best lover (even if its not true).
10. To cater to his body, especially those areas that turn him on the most.
Why don't you...
...smile. Honey, this too shall pass.
...take a moment and remember your accomplishments, no matter how small.
...let go of anyone who refuses to forgive you, especially when you have forgiven yourself.
...tell yourself how brave you are, even if you have yet to meet her.
...love yourself more and cut loose anything that is draining you.
...realize the difference between love, lust, infatuation & obsession.
...be honest before you demand honesty.
...keep in mind that sometimes you can be wrong and it's ok.
...stop punishing someone you say you love because of a past hurt or disappointment.
...have a silly moment and laugh about it.
“How would your life be different if…You stopped allowing other people to dilute or poison your day with their words or opinions? Let today be the day…You stand strong in the truth of your beauty and journey through your day without attachment to the validation of others” ― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free
Honey, I know it's hard sometimes to ignore what people say, especially someone you care about. Just the other day, I let someone's words burn me for a moment til I thought, "Don't allow someone's negativity rent valuable space in your mind and spirit. Besides I am too damn hot to let this muthaf*&ker decrease my prettiness." LOL! Remember, you lose a little bit of pretty hot chick-ness every time you allow anyone to stress you out. Dig this. A work buddy complained to me about some female telling one of his friends that "he had no style for a gay dude." He continued to fuss about it for a good 5 minutes even saying how he's gonna confront her when he sees her. Why?! By you continuously bitching and moaning about someone's opinion of you, shows not only how much it bothers you, but how much value and belief you put in their words. Not to mention, what you doubt about yourself. *BLANK STARE* So the next time someone says anything negative to bruise your spirit and day, respond with a smile, "There's only room for two (me and my opinion), so I'm gonna make it less room for you." Then go on your merry way without any further thought about him or her.
You are who you think you are!
"Your happiness begins and ends with your thoughts."
The 10 Commandments of a Pretty Hot Chick!
Being a Pretty Hot Chick is more than a look, it's a state of mind. Join the PHC movement in 2013 by simply thinking, breathing and living the following:
1. Thou shall put my opinion first, because it is the one that matters most.
2. Thou shall not wait for nor seek anyone's ok or approval.
3. Thou shall not allow anyone's words burn me.
4. Thou shall believe in my beauty, power & worth.
5. Thou shall forgive and let go of past hurt & disappointments.
6. Thou shall not leave home looking less than my best.
7. Thou shall not make a priority out of anyone who only makes me an option.
8. Thou shall revel in my femininity, sensuality & sexuality daily.
9. Thou shall contemplate myself as surrounded in the conditions I wish to produce.
10. Thou shall do whatever I must to be happy in this life...no regrets, no fears.
How many times have you ached for someone your mind tells you you shouldn't but your body says otherwise?
Self-control is a bitch when it comes to that person who knows just how to make your body purr from satisfaction. You know what I mean? Like a certain look he gives you, his smile, the way he works his tongue and lips around your mouth (both openings I may add). Now don't pretend like ya'll don't know what I'm talking about! Right now, some of you are secretly wishing you could have his expert skills all over your body, especially your kitty kat. LOL! No need to pretend. I understand. As I'm sure you can with Rihanna's attraction to Chris Brown. There are some connections that cannot be explained or rationalized. It is what it is. So instead of fighting it, Embrace the memory and that rising heat between your thighs. Smile at its beauty and mystique. Live in its moment for a minute or two. Hell, caress yourself if you must, then release. But remember this...chemistry like that is not meant to be understood, just cherished by only you and its sweet, sexy simplicity.
"From the fruit of her lips, a woman can enjoy good things..."
3 secrets your lips reveal about you!
Our mouth has the power to attract, arouse and provoke. It represents how we communicate with others and reflects our degree of sensuality and sexual desire. So what is your pucker exposing about you right now?
1. The type of mood you're in. Whether it's positive or negative, what you do with your lips can suggest your current state of mind. For example, the corners of your mouth turned up while you nibble on lips conveys playfulness with perhaps a naughty thought or two. LOL! A genuine smile gives the impression of a happy, carefree attitude. A frown or no lip movement expresses that you are unapproachable and want to be left alone.
2. How you feel about yourself and others. Simply put, the words that flow out of your mouth speak of who and what you are. If you tend to constantly complain or find fault with everything and everyone shows a dislike as well as a certain contempt for yourself as well as others.
3. You're sexual allure. Soft, moist, slight quivers, a touch of color, as well as licking one's lips, hint at your sexual prowess. It's all in how you invite and tease the observer honey! Remember, the way you present and move your lips give clues to how sensual and sexual you can be.
9 Things to Give Up Starting Today So You Can Truly Live Your Best Life Now!
1. Any fears of not finding your true love or being alone.
2. Feeling threatened or intimidated by ANY woman or man!
3. Allowing anybody's negative words take up valuable space in your mind.
4. Stressing over things you can't control.
5. Saying "yes" when you feel like saying "no".
6. Saying or doing something negative because you don't feel good about yourself.
7. Arguing over issues that you know will never change.
8. Obsessing over what you don't have or where you think you should be in life.
9. Doubting your beauty and power!
When you feel like you want to give up...
Once in awhile when it seems a bit much for me to deal with running my business, having a personal life, being strong, keeping my sexy and maintaining my pretty thoughts, I have a moment or two where I wonder, "If I can really do it all..."
But, right when those thoughts enter my mind, I smile and say, "Hell yeah! Keep your faith and take your time, because negative thoughts kill ambition. And doubts zap your confidence!" So, I chuckle and shout, "Hey, I am who I think I am!" LOL!
Honey, the best revenge is...Whatever you wish to accomplish, affirm persistently and concentrate all your power on securing it. When your mind is truly positive and empty of worry, you will create what you wish. Remember, we become a magnet and draw to us what we think and focus on most.
Believe in your power & beauty!
3 Steps to Achieve an Orgasm!
OMG! There are so many women who have yet to achieve an orgasm
or who have not experienced one through intercourse or oral sex! Check out my tips
that will have you coming (pun intended) in no time whether you're alone or with him!
1. See yourself as a Pretty Hot Chick. Visualize your body as one big sexual zone.
It's not all about him! Be just as turned on with yourself as you are
with your partner (Hell, on a couple of instances I was more turned on by me
than the person I was with! LOL!)
2. Explore. Take a mirror between your legs and look at the treasure
that rests between your thighs. Or think of her during foreplay & sex with your lover.
Touch her. Then in a circular motion, gently massage
your clitoris. (The more aroused you get, increase the speed and pressure to your liking.) You can also instruct your mate to do this with his hand, tongue, toy, etc. (Speaking of which, one thing that I enjoy is using a vibrator to stimulate my
clitoris as my lover is penetrating me.)
3. Be in the moment. Focus on the sensation, the smell of your lover's fragrance,
the sound of your and/or lover's moan, a visual of what you're doing or
any sexual act that suits you. Let your mind loose.
Release your inhibitions and expectations.
4 Secrets to Pretty Hot Chickness!
1. Think Pretty. For example, it doesn’t matter if you're larger or smaller than most women, light or dark skinned, different hair texture, etc.You don't have to look like everyone else to be beautiful. Remember, you are who you think you are!
2. Add a sexy color to you lips. According to color experts, the ultra feminine pink hue (like this Maybelline Color Sensational Lipgloss in Pink Perfection) increases heart rate, deep purple causes an intense feeling and red stimulates one's imagination. Use these shades to your advantage and up your hotness.
3. Be Beauty! Strive to look your best every day! Brand yourself as a Pretty Hot Chick with hair (regardless if it's short, mid-length or long; straight, wavy or nappy; weaved, relaxed or natural), that plays up your best facial features. For example, if you have great eyes, opt for shorter bangs; if you have a cute nose, try a side, diagonal part. (Remember to part hair on the side that’s the fullest to maximize sex appeal!), well groomed eyebrows, lush eyelashes, neat nails, soft & smooth skin (coconut oil or shea butter is perfect to keep body luscious) and bright teeth.
4. Smile! It not only makes you look confident, but you'll appear more approachable. Uncertainty and fear tends to have an aura. Be joyful.
How to make the most of what you have!
What was it about Marilyn Monroe that made her so alluring to men and women? I got news for you darling, she's no different from you! Marilyn's secret was, she simply made the most of her attributes and emphasized their lushness. Hair, eyes, lips and curves, Marilyn was fearless in reveling in her femininity and sexuality. Here's how you can too:
1. Focus on your positives. Don't sell yourself short because you are not perfect. You are perfectly you and hot despite whatever imperfections! Remember, losing your fears and inhibitions requires loving yourself completely and stretching out of your comfort zone in order to be a Pretty Hot Chick!
2. Think "pretty". Whatever you want, think of that and never swerve from it. If you want to be desirable, think of yourself as such: "I am a Pretty Hot Chick!" Act as if you are, dress as though you are! Remember you become who/what you think you are.
3. Be Pretty! Never leave home without eyeliner, mascara, lipgloss, fragrance, cute hairstyle or hat, great-fitting clothes, fabulous shoes and of course pretty thoughts!
4. Speak 2 languages: Body & English! Legendary actress & singer Eartha Kitt once said, "Don't move because you want to go from this point to that point, the body has to be using the words as well as you vocally use the words." Hey a Pretty Hot Chick's middle name is sensuality!
10 Things to Give Up Starting Now!
1. Stressing over things you can't control.
2. Feeling threatened or intimidated by ANY woman or man!
3. Allowing someone's negative words or opinions take up valuable space in your mind and spirit.
4. Fears of not finding your true love or of being alone.
5. Saying "yes" when you feel like saying "no".
6. Putting other folks down because you don't feel good about yourself.
7. Arguing over issues that you know will never change.
8. Obsessing over what you don't have or where you think you should be in life.
9. Trying to be with someone who does not want to be with you.
10. Doubting your hotness!
5 Tips to Make Your Kitty Kissably Irresistible!
Ladies our vagina, especially those lips, should be one sexy seduction tool AND tasty feast! Check out what my friend, Beautiful Sunshine advises and what we Pretty Hot Chicks practice daily:
- Tip #1: Tug on or brush to loosen up your hairs. No one wants to be in your “puddin’ cup” and have loose hairs on their tongue. Not sexy!!! Tighten that up! Keep it trimmed low or go bald. Your Kitty will love the feeling of the smooth skin and so will your partner.
- Tip #2: Make sure your labia is clean. (Your labia is your Kitty’s lips. They extend outside our vajay-jay.) Use an anti-bacterial soap or feminine wash to keep your labia clean. Gently massage your labia as you wash and rinse clean. Finally pat, not rub your Kitty dry. Just how you like to keep the lips on your face luscious and juicy, make sure your labia is the same way. To keep your labia and vaginal area smelling fresh and tasting sweet, drink lots of water and eat plenty of fruit (pineapple, kiwi, berries, mangos, watermelon, apple, etc). Now, let your natural scent (pheromones) captivate your partner.
- Tip #3: Don’t’ hesitate to masturbate while your mate is giving Kitty the deep kiss. Rub your breasts, suck your fingers, and look at your mate while they are kissing Kitty. Use a flavored arousal balm. Not only does it heighten over 5,000 nerve endings in your clitoris, it gives your mate a different flavor. Then, take a bullet and place it inside your vagina. Don’t be scared! Embrace your inner sexy freakiness.
- Tip #4: When your mate is down giving Kitty a juicy wet one, most partners (especially new ones) like some input. Encourage them so they know they're on the right track. Take your hand and open up your labia and move your Kitty lips to help your lover find that sweet spot. Rock your hips up and down or back and forth. This move helps them find your sweet spot and get you to the Promised Land! Moan, talk dirty, or hold their head in place when they meet Kitty’s sweet spot. Let your Pretty Hot Chick free! Roar! Enjoy the moment!
- Tip #5: Communication and humor are important. Keep it light. Everything is a learning experience (especially if it’s a new partner). So share with your partner what makes your Kitty purr!
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